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Kadence's avatar

Can this be required reading for every girl and woman? Can we get this into textbooks and schools and magazines (do mags still print?)?? This is insanely brilliant. You are insanely brilliant. This is making soooo much click for me. I can’t quite absorb your words fast enough. Or deep enough. Off to keep trying … 🤟🏽

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The Dope Doula's avatar

That's a question I've had, but haven't bothered checking - do magazines still print? I used to love SL Mag as a teen and dreamt of writing features on significant global and cultural issues for Marie Claire! If only I had kept my eye on the prize...

Thank you! 😄 you always boost my morale and lift my spirits! I feel so blessed to have you in my corner!

And it's really reassuring to hear that my logic and reasoning actually make sense!

🖤

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Kadence's avatar

Ok not to fan girl but if you were in magazines I would have already had you torn out and put into binders (that’s what I used to do with my favorite articles) or torn out my fave phrases and made collage art, or taped your perfectly chosen art to my walls. You would have been my bible. I know that for facts. Marie Claire isn’t good enough for you but damn we could have used you in our minds. We would have grown up different humans. Instead I learn how to flirt, f*ck, and which polish was trending bc godddd forbid I shine up with the wrong shade this season *gasp*.

Fr…. Your words are elevating me. I don’t take them lightly. I reread your pieces and they have raised my standards for what (who) I give my eyes and mind to here on Substack… Change me or go. I don’t have heart for whimsy at the moment. I crave fire and depth.

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The Dope Doula's avatar

Flirting and fucking are relevant skills though! I only experienced orgasm for the 1st time at 35! Had no idea that I'd never actually had one until I, well, had one! And flirting! Ugh, I've crushed on guys in the past SO hard & really put myself out there (I thought) just to have them tell me 10 years later "you know I was really into you but you didn't seem interested." like guys, c'mon! Maybe if I knew how to flirt, I'd be a happily divorced, jaguar driving soccer mom now, instead of nibbling at my fresh gel mani because my brain is starved of dopamine 😂

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Kadence's avatar

Oh my gosh ok yes thisss is why I should allow myself to read notifications before I can answer them! Everything gets so out of order 😂

Ok yea but then learning too early to flirt will have you playing the game way before you’re ready. Didn’t work out for me either girl 🫠

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